Kushbu, stumped for a duck.
What's your opinion about the recent hungama surrounding Kushbu and her comments about sex?
The news in breif is "Kushbu while giving an interview for an Eng Mag about AIDS prevention in India, said that the attitude of men who expect women to be chaste before marriage needs a change. She added that it was not sin for women to have sex before marriage, but care should be taken that they dont get pregnant or catch any disease. No educated man in his senses would put it as a condition that his wife should be chaste before marriage". These were her comments. Now the whole state is standing on its head. She was 'made' to apologise.
Well, I pity her. What else can be said? Her ideas are nice to hear, may be correct too.
I would have loved it from a man's mouth though, and since I am not that educated at present, "No comments"..
I don't join her bandwagon because I have a doubt over her ideas. The doubt is because of the confusion that surrounds me in the name of westernisation. Are our women matured enough to handle this in the right way. Does she really think they have it in them to understand what she is talking about and lead a stable life in that scenario. Have our men become that understanding. Won't it lead to the culture of 'living together' and transform us from the planes of 'marriages and families'. I really dont know. I personally am not that big a supporter of the 'living together' concept. That's my worry, its not that i expect women to be chaste before marriage.. Its only the doubt whether it will affect our system of families that makes me hesitate joining her band.
As of now, She seems to have overestimated the brains of our country men and is stuck in deeps**t. Our country is full of 'kinattru thavalai's madam. Dont waste your time and energy with them.
posted by Prasanna at 7:43 PM
2 comments:
Hmm freedom of expression, yes one should have it. I just was thinking about the ladies in Saudi- they dont have the freedom to even move around!.
I just read a book by one who escaped from there(none other than Osama's Sister in Law, Carmen- in her book "Inside the Kingdom"). http://cruiserdeep.blogspot.com/2005/09/hi-all-i-just-read-book-by-osama-bin.html .
I agree to most of what carmen says, but as a person who has been to Saudi on my business trips I have a slightly less shocking picture of what has been said.
When its your culture(And u r not aware of other cultures or any new learnings, generally no inputs from the world's whichs are censored- for most of Saudians this is the case, especially ladies) you don't really feel pathetic living in it(ignorance is bliss).
And a foreigner feeling aghast by experiencing this alien culture, and trying to prescribe his or her culture to Saudians, is not very proper. Similar is the case of sub-cultures like where Khusboo drew flak from, who are we to prescribe behaviour codes for them.
The realisation always is best coming from within, not by provocation but by induction.
cheers
Deep
Premarital Sex in India? I believe that should not be the case anywhere in the world! Sex plays a very very tiny role in this vast episode of life. Life is more than sex! It's an intimate act between two persons joined together legally (marriage) and mentally (mature) for pleasure and most important of all, for propagation of mankind. Sex can be healthy when it is inside the courts of the family and can have remarkable effects when handled in a noble way.
If sex was just physical, no one would have made this issue a big deal. But sex closely glues with morals too. No father wants his daughter to go about having sex...even if she is, he hesitates to openly talk to others, because he feels it’s a moral issue for the entire family! Especially in India, women are respected because of their moral vow towards extra-marital and pre-marital sex. At this point a woman who is old and mature enough can teach and guide young women about abstaining from sexual sins. Most Indian moms do this.
I expected this from Kushbu, a woman mature enough to teach and guide other women in India to keep their moral vows by avoiding pre-marital sex...but on the contrary her advice was like urging them to waver from moral ethics and be safe from hazards!! thatz crap!
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