Friday, December 16, 2005
Tuesday, December 13, 2005
Saturday, December 03, 2005
Thursday, November 24, 2005
Tuesday, November 22, 2005
Thursday, November 17, 2005
Tuesday, November 15, 2005
Monday, November 14, 2005
Saturday, November 12, 2005
Friday, November 11, 2005
Genie talk : Vishnu, going into 3 today. She is our friend Anandan's daughter. One of the most bubbliest kids we have ever met. You should have seen her fighting a big crowd to get her hands on somebody else's birthday cake before that somebody himself had a chance. And what do you expect, SHE WON. HAPPY BIRTHDAY.
Thursday, November 10, 2005
Wednesday, November 09, 2005
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.
I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way
than this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.
Genie talk: Poem by Pablo Neruda. Saththiyama ithu padikkarathukku munna varaikkum naan englishla feel aanathillingo :)
Tuesday, November 08, 2005
Saturday, October 29, 2005
Uyyakondan Thirumalai, Trichy
Thursday, October 27, 2005
Tuesday, October 25, 2005
Genie talk: 47D, the house of dreams. Its were we lived our life of togetherness, we five men who came out of their parent's shade to live their own lives. It was a dream place. September, October would be spring time and 47D used to blossom too. It stands there with only one soul outta us to keep it going now. We five live in different corners of the world today, still cherishing those days.
Monday, October 24, 2005
Tuesday, October 18, 2005
Wednesday, October 12, 2005
Nike Shoes, with a 'just do it' sign on it, is gone. 2500 Rs maal. Stolen. Aasai aasaiya vaanginathu, enakkilla, en thambikku.
Kovai had bought a similar one. I was with Kovai when he bought that. I liked the model,so bought it for my bro on his birthday. Aana avan athila neraya kasamusa colors irukkunu poadama vaichchirunthaan. So naan oorukku poana pozhuthu en reebok joggersa (black) eduththukittu ithai en kittayae koduththuttaan.. I was nothing but happy, antha reebok joggers enakku bore adikka aarambichchiruntha neram athu.Then, the next time I went home, thirumbavum shoe maaththikkalaamnu thambi sollavum konjam doubt aagi reebok enna nelamaila irukkunu paarkka ponaen, paarththa mun pakkam iruntha flap konjam veliya vanthirunthathu. Periya problem illa, irunthaalum "en rangeukku less than perfect poadaratha"nu oru dialogue vittuttu, poda 'no exchange mela'nu sollittu es aagittaen.
apdi oru periya (annan thambi) historya thanakku pinnadi vaichchiruntha shoeva evano thirudittu poittaan.. en apartment vaasalila thaan vaichchirunthaen, evano gril doorla kai vittu en shoe, apram en roommates rendu paeroda shoes ellaththaiyum abase pannittaan.. punniyavaan.. enna kodumaiyo, seruppu thirudi pozhaikkiraan.
seri, enna panrathu, nadanthathu nadanthu poachchu..
Saturday, October 08, 2005
More information about the test was given in a previous post. This test consisted of 107 questions to assess your personality type. After completing the test the results indicated that I had an INFJ personality type, which means introverted intutive feeling with judgement. People with this personality type are said to like abstractness, they tend to be private. More about INFJ characterstics include - sensitive, quiet leaders, great depth of personality - intricately and deeply woven, mysterious, and highly complex, sometimes puzzling even themselves , introverted, live in a world of hidden meanings and possibilities - part of an unusually rich inner life , abstract in communicating, artistic (and natural affinity for art), creative, and easily inspired, very independent, orderly view towards the world but within themself arranged in a chaotic, complex way only they could understand . After reviewing the results and thinking about how I view my personality type I would have to agree with the assessment. Although at first glance I would like to disagree with some of the characteristics, after careful thought I would say that this is a good indicator of my personality. I definitely enjoy when things are running abstractness and adventure, I love art and am very easily inspired. Many times I also let my feelings show. I am emotional and have a hard time hiding the way I am feeling under many circumstances. Lot of reading on this area made me agree with too many aspects of this indicator.
In conclusion, Carl Jung was a brilliant psychologist with very valid theories on personality. His theories will indeed be studied for years to come, however his most noted contribution, the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator will long be used as an assessment of personality types for millions of people. It is a test that should be viewed as insight into your own personality for further exploration and development. As stated earlier, our goal should be to develop all four personality functions, because as Jung says, the transcendence of opposites is the ideal.
Thursday, October 06, 2005
This topology begins with the distinction between introversion and extroversion. -Introverts are those people who prefer their internal world of thoughts, feelings, fantasies, and dreams, etc.
-Extroverts, on the other hand prefer the external world of things and people and activities.
Next, whether we are introverts or extroverts, we need to deal with world, inner and outer, and each of us has our preferable way of doing so. Jung says that there are four basic ways of doing this, four functions.
- The first is sensing, what he implies by this is getting information by means of the senses. Jung called this one of the irrational function, meaning that it involved perception rather than the judging of information.
- The second is thinking, this means evaluating ideas or information rationally. Jung called this a rational function because it involves decision making or judging, rather than the simple intake of information.
- Third is intuiting, this is a kind of perception that works outside of the usual conscious processes. It is irrational, but come from the integration of large amounts of information.
-Finally, is feeling, this is a matter of evaluating information by weighing one’s overall emotional response. This Jung calls rational.
Most of us only develop one or two of the functions, but Jung says that it should be our goal to develop all four as a way to transcend the opposite.
Monday, October 03, 2005
-The first part is the ego, defined as the conscious mind.
-Second, is the personal unconscious, which he says includes anything that is not presently conscious but can be. It is said to include both memories that are easily brought to mind and those that have been suppressed for some reason.
-Finally, Jung adds the part of the psyche that make his theory different from all others, the collective unconscious. Jung says that this is the reservoir of our experiences as a species, a kind of knowledge that we are all born with. It influences all of our behaviors and experiences, especially the emotional ones, but we are never directly conscious of it, it is only revealed by looking at those influences.
The contents of the collective unconscious are known as archetypes. An archetype is defined as an unlearned tendency to experience things in a certain way. It has no form of its own, but acts as an “organizing principle” on the things that we see or do. It works very similar to the way instincts work in Freud’s theory. One example of an archetype is the mother. All of our ancestors had mothers, and we have evolved in an environment that included a mother or mother-substitute. As helpless infants we never would have survived without our connection to a nurturing one. Therefore, Jung says that we are built in a way that reflects our evolutionary environment, so we come into this world looking for a mother. Another example of an archetype is the persona. This is a defined as your public image. It is said to be the mask that you put on before you show yourself to the outside world. Although the persona begins as an archetype, it is the part of us that finds itself most distant from the collective unconscious.
Included in our persona is the role of male or female that we must play, which is determined for most by their physical gender. Jung, however, like Freud, and Adler, and others, believed that we are all really bisexual in nature. Beginning at birth we are under the influence of society that mold us into males and females. Jung therefore believed that all men have a female aspect present in their collective unconscious, which is referred to as the anima, and that all females have a male aspect present in their collective unconscious, known as the animus. They are together referred to as syzygy. The anima or animus is the archetype through which you communicate with the collective unconscious. It is also the archetype, which is responsible for much of our love life. Jung says that we are as ancient Greek myth suggests, constantly searching for our other half, which the Gods took away from us in members of the opposite sex. Therefore, when we fall in love at first sight, we have actually found someone that fills our anima or animus archetype particularly well.
Saturday, October 01, 2005
Friday, September 30, 2005
Was going thro - when harry met sally's script. Nice one, its listed in the top ten romantic movies list (viewer rating). I notice that I like some movies as scripts better. This was one such. After reading the script I felt that the visual version didnt do justice to the script.The characterisations of the protoganists were excellent. Especially Harrys'. You'd get reminded of your own inconsistensies. 'Hum Tum' was made scene by scene over this movie, they did bring it out as a nice Indian version though, what with saif at his humorous best.
The dialogues in the movie were excellent (probably that's why I didn't like the visual version, I miss most of the dialogues in an english movie). Particulary during the scene when they first meet, the way Harry puts himself forward as a negative person. "Harry's reading the last page of a book first" explaination's. All fundu.
One dialogue to quote " And I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible". fanal that brings the climax and quiet correctly. The dialogue's simple, direct and stuffed with the emotion it is conveying. Great dialogue to make the climax crisp. Couldn't help but rave at the time these people get to make movies. It shows in their output. Probably, our movies will also be this good if we are given the time. Hmmm..
Tuesday, September 27, 2005
Saturday, September 24, 2005
About the author, Spinster, Gud looking and an unbearable Nai Nai, God knows where she finds those questions to ask me, all killing questions. She works with TCS- Chennai, an INFP by Myer Brigg personality type indicator standards, lives on feelings and expectations. Loves the word LOVE from the root and firmly believes that LOVE keeps our earth spinning. No comments for your question as to why a Spinster’s writing an article upon the art of marriage, I said ‘Absolutely No Comments’, over to the article.
What makes a good marriage? If a couple desires to have a great marriage, will it just happen? Is it a matter of luck, a matter of timing or a matter of love? Is it about determination and commitment? What is it about?
I do think, Marriage is an answer to a longstanding human tradition. Otherwise, the art of marriage has to be learned. It, like parenthood, comes with no instructions! So marriage maybe one program for you and maybe another one for me, no need that the instruction set should be the same for both of us.
We all have expectations of a marriage. We ask for companionship. We call for a friend who will stand by us. We want a person who believes in us, who can laugh with us. We want a person with whom we don't have to pretend. We expect that person to see us as unique and irreplaceable. We want someone not just to share our life with but to build a life with. But does everything work out the way we expect it to be? Do things change after marriage? Do we change after marriage? Is it a problem?
Yep, People change. But if feel in a marriage, if both of them could change together, there is no need to grow apart. So, how to keep things going?
What with the work culture nowadays, we all work long hours, travel extensively. Family and career are mixed together and it’s all confusion out there. Women works extensively these days, workplace demands are high and women are unwilling to compromise. So what is gonna happen? What should we do? Where do you think we are gonna end up with this?
Well, in successful marriages, the partners must form a single unit. Whatever the differences of opinion, when it comes to the rest of the world, it is important to present a united front. The trust that comes from knowing that the other will not let you down and will always stand by you is irreplaceable and priceless. Rule no 1 – We two against the world.
Laughter is the catalyst which is gonna make love bloom. Adapt to changes, some things are gonna go wrong. Be ready to accept it. You are to compromise if you are to get it smooth. You can’t be intangible as it is not only about you - it involves another entity which thinks too. Keep in mind, never let go your partner. A happy, lasting marriage is challenged and rebuilt every day. It takes commitment to move on this journey together. Rule no 2 – Love and Laugh, always always.
Marriage is like handling a new engine. The initial period is very important. Run it cautiously, The passion and ardor of the early years of a relationship will eventually evolve into a deep glow of devotion and contentment. Keeping the romance alive is one of the greatest challenges in a marriage. Couples in long, satisfying marriages always reiterate that romance should never be relegated to the back seat. Its only when romance fades infidelity happens. Remember faithfulness is a cornerstone in this arena. Rule no 3 – Be true and keep the romance going.
A good marriage is not only about marrying the right partner; it's about being the right partner. It is not just a commitment to a person; it is a commitment to the marriage itself. It is not just entering a relationship; it is not allowing oneself an exit route.